On the very first session with a client, one of the first things I do with them is what I call “the walk and talk.” I simply carry a notepad with me while we walk from space to space and I just let the client say whatever is on their mind, uncensored and free flowing.
I do this for a few reasons. First, the client is generally very nervous before I show up. They are nervous about how the process will go, if I’m going to judge them, will they be able to handle it, am I going to force them to make them toss all their stuff, and how long it’s going to take.
But as we start to walk and talk, all those concerns seem to take a temporary backseat as they go through a brain dump of their frustrations, annoyances, emotional disturbances, battles, anger, depression, sadness, incoveniences and overall total overwhelm. As they talk, I can feel and see the emotional charge start to dissipate like a balloon becoming deflated. All of these emotions have been stuck for so long and now they are finally being given permission, if you will, to let it out. And boy do they. I once had a lady open her door and before she even asked me to come in, she immediately started dumping and crying. It was so sad I had to give her a big hug. I’ve shed many a tear with my client. Knowing that people have lived with all of these emotions stuck for so long breaks my heart and inspires me to help them and bring peace to their lives.
Another reason I do the walk and talk is because I am looking for one specific word. Hate. That’s right hate. Often times, they are not even hearing themselves say it. I keep a running total as we go through the house and when I present them with how many times they have said hate, they are usually in total shock and then the reality of the debilitating conditions they have been living in hits them like a semi truck.
Then I explain that because everything is energy, the energy of the hate emotion is creating a block in whatever space hate is being directed at. Using the principles of Feng Shui, a space can either be set up to let energy flow easily and effortlessly or it can be blocked. It can be blocked by such things as the way you arrange your furniture, clutter, an imbalance of too much of one of the elements and even your thoughts. So if you are feeling any negative emotions in a particular space, chances are, wherever that space sits on the Bagua Map will mean you are probably experiencing a block in that area of your life. The bagua map divides your home into nine areas. Each area corresponds with an area of your life. To help you further understand the power of your thoughts and the role they play in energy and how it affects your life, watch this fascinating clip from the movie What the Bleep Do We Know.
So I challenge you to do a walk and talk with yourself around your home. Look at the elements in each space and if you hear yourself saying you hate it or have negative thoughts in the sapce, it would be in your best interest to change whatever needs to be changed in that space to bring your emotions into harmony with it. That may mean, you need to get rid of those dried, dead roses the ex that broke your heart gave you. Or that dead plant that every time you look at it, it makes you feel like a failure for not caring for it well. What about that picture that your husbands ex gave him and he keeps it hanging on the wall and drives you crazy every time you look at it (I’ve seen it happen).
The highest level of achievement in organizing you can reach is when you can look at everything and every space in your house and say, “I love it or at least like it a lot and I use it.” I know that sounds like a pipe dream, but the more you simplify and let go of what you hate, don’t like and don’t use, the closer you can get to this ideal state and the more enjoyable and easier your life will become and the more harmonious and comfortable your home will feel.