Organizing and decluttering can be an emotionally taxing process, especially when faced with unsupportive or judgmental responses from those we ask for help. The importance of compassion during organizing or decluttering can’t be overemphasized. Whether you get help from a professional organizer or a friend, give yourself some emotional support and remember to have compassion for yourself.
Many people find themselves in a predicament where hiring a professional organizer is financially out of reach, leaving them to tackle the daunting task alone or with reluctant assistance from friends or family. It makes me upset whenever I find out someone was belittled when making an effort to improve their space. We all need help from time to time.
Here’s how to get into the right mindset when going about it alone.
The Emotional Toll of Judgmental Help
Many individuals shared their frustration, noting that when they ask for help, the responses are often hurtful and dismissive. Comments like “I’ll help you by throwing all this stuff away” not only fail to provide genuine support but also inflict emotional pain. This kind of judgment undermines the confidence and motivation needed to effectively organize one’s space.
Many people we’ve worked with have emphasized that the lack of compassion from those who are supposed to help can be discouraging. The process of decluttering is already challenging without the added burden of dealing with negative comments and actions.
The Importance of Compassionate Assistance
The essence of helpful support lies in aiding the person to make decisions they are comfortable with, rather than imposing one’s own standards and judgments. A gentle approach, where the helper listens and asks the right questions rather than dictating what should be discarded, is crucial.
Positive experiences with professional organizers who were supportive and non-judgmental show that the right kind of help can make a significant difference. A good professional organizer will have empathy and compassion, which are essential qualities for anyone in this role. Without these traits, individuals should not be in the business of organizing.
Strategies for Self-Help and Community Support
Set Realistic Goals
Breaking down the task into manageable parts can make it less overwhelming. Rewarding yourself with small treats for completing sections can provide a sense of accomplishment and motivation.
Seek Online Communities
Online forums and social media groups can offer support and advice without judgment. Posting pictures in supportive online communities can result in constructive suggestions.
Decluttering Gradually
Taking a slow and steady approach by dedicating just 15 minutes at a time can make the process more manageable and less stressful.
Educate Yourself
Reading books or watching videos on organizing can provide new techniques and motivation. Utilizing platforms like YouTube and magazines for inspiration can be highly beneficial.
Avoid Negative Help
It’s essential to distance yourself from those who offer negative or counterproductive help. Clearly communicating with unhelpful “helpers” and setting boundaries is crucial for protecting your emotional well-being.
Building a Positive Environment
Creating a supportive environment is key to successful decluttering. Surround yourself with people who understand and respect your emotional attachment to your belongings. Trust is crucial; only involve those who genuinely respect your process and boundaries.
Professional help can be valuable, but it’s not always accessible. By setting realistic goals, seeking supportive communities, and educating oneself, the process of organizing can be made more manageable.
It’s crucial to involve those who offer empathetic and non-judgmental assistance, and hopefully turn a potentially painful task into a more positive and empowering experience. Set boundaries and do what’s right for you.